I was having coffee with a friend who asked about our adoption. I share what I normally do when people ask that question, that we are just waiting (sorry I don't have a more exciting answer than that) for a birth mother to pick us. She asked what exactly that looks like, which is a birth mother sees our book because what we are open to in a child that matches what she wants in adoption parents for her child. I told my friend how hard it was to do that paperwork and mark what we'd be open to or not, but our agency wanted us to honest with ourselves in what we were able to provide in the way of cultural context and health needs. What we have learned through all of this processes, is that everyone involved (birth mother, adoptive family and the agency) wants what is best for the child. Knowing how much you are able to take on, its what is best for the child even if that means a longer wait for us. She told me that I was already parenting, which was such an encouragement to me because I never would of thought of it that way. Also, when Im put in the category of a parent, it means so much to me. I have nothing to show like a pregnancy, but I would hope Im learning how to become a parent even in the waiting.
Couple weekends ago we moved the guestroom around and unpacked all of the baby things we have collected and generously been given. It was so good for me to be able to have a lot of what we have out where every time I walk into the guestroom it feels more like a nursery. I know people who longed for children as well, would use their empty nursery to sit and pray in. I can see myself doing that now with evidence that this is a place for a baby. A baby will be here one day. And as you can see from the photo, Baby Windsor has quite a library going already - thanks to hand me downs from my cousin and Atticus. Maybe we'll have to start practicing by reading to Oliver until the baby comes.