This past Saturday was the warmest day of December here in North Carolina and I spent most of my day taking mini photo sessions of 7 wonderful families! I asked on Facebook if anyone would be interested in mini photo sessions (30 minute time slots) and the response was so great that I will be do another day in the New Year for more people. If that is something that you'd like to do, please contact me at: firstname.lastname@example.org Thank you all so much for being so encouraging and supporting to us. And a huge thank you to these beautiful 7 families who came out and supported our adoption fund!
We are so grateful for all of you who have been so very excited for us. Unknowingly, when we posted our news, I didn't expect to feel as I did when people said "Congratulations!" It felt as what I expect, it feels like when someone announces they are pregnant. Our "pregnancy" will be a bit longer than 9 months, but the idea of so many people in so many different places being excited for us in this process overwhelms my heart. Theres a lot of loss that comes with coming to grips that I won't get to experience a lot of things by not being about carry a child. However, our sweet community helps heal that grief by responding to us adopting the same as if we were having a biological child. I just don't have the words to tell you how much that means to us.
Currently we are making good progress on our paperwork. Last we talked with our agency, right now, even if we turned in all our paperwork, there is a waiting list to be matched with a social worker. Whoever turns in their paperwork gets matched next, so I of course still want to turn in our paperwork ASAP. I want to be waiting on Bethany, not them waiting on us. We hope to have all paperwork: legal documents, personal profiles, tax information, and physicals in by January. The paperwork is part of the home study. Next part of the home study is that we'd have an interview one on one with the social worker and the social worker would check out our home. In this home study process, we have to turn in $5k. Thats our first big fundraising goal, to raise the $5k so we can get our home study completed. Once our home study is completed, we officially would be a waiting family.
This morning at church we started a series called "The Gift of Christmas" and this weeks gift was: anticipation. The question was asked, 'Why is anticipation a gift?'. We looked to Isaiah 25:6-26:6 where God tells the Israelites that a great, strong city is being built for them, that He knows they are in the mist of dark days. In the mist of the darkness, God is still good and He is giving them good news. The anticipation allows them to hope with the promise that has been given to them.
Advent is a season of waiting. That can be a big daunting word, waiting. No one likes to wait. But adding in the element of anticipation with that waiting, that changes things doesnt it? We still have paperwork to turn in before we are a 'waiting family' but I have felt like Ive been waiting for a child for a long time. So, this idea of waiting for something is not lost on me. I know once we have everything turned in, the waiting is going to drive me a bit crazy. Even though at the moment, I know there is nothing I can do to speed up a birth mother picking. Its completely in God's hands for when that will happen, with the peace that He is good and He is the one who gives hope in the mist of waiting.
Isaiah 9:2 + 6 "The people who walked in darkness have seen a great light; those who dwelt in a land of deep darkness, on them has lighted shined." "For to us a child is born, to us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace."
It's been a wonderful Thanksgiving week. Monday we shared with the world that we are in the mist of the adoption process, ie paperwork. Im actually blogging instead of working on my paperwork because, my brian hurts just a bit. One of the things we have to work on is a 19 page personal profile. Both Jason and I have to fill it out separately and it is no joke. They ask really good questions like: What was it like to grow up in your home? What is your relationship with your family now? What do you like the least about yourself? How do you respond as a couple regarding conflict? How do you plan to parent? What would make you a good adoptive parent? Like I said, really good question but also really hard questions. Id like to think of myself as an introspective person most of the time, but these questions really make you get real with yourself. Which I think is so good and these are important things we should know about ourselves. However, that doesnt mean they are not overwhelming and I start to doubt if my answers are good enough. Even though Bethany said this is not a test, which I know is true, they just want us to be honest. It feels like the biggest interview of your life, you want to be truthful, but you want to answer well to achieve your end goal. On top of the 19 page personal profile, we have a stack of documents from Bethany that we have to fill our regarding our finances, employment, copies of birth and marriage certificates, personal references, get physicals and have it signed off by our doctors, just to name a few. The stack of paperwork is not as thick as I expected, but just as overwhelming as I thought it would be.
In our first information class with Bethany, they talk openly how if we lived in a perfect world, adoption would not exist.